Holding Someone Accountable Without Shaming Them: A Guide for Effective ConversationsAs a therapist who works with clients to develop shame resilience, it sometimes is a challenge not to shame the client when they haven’t…Jun 28Jun 28
What Pain Still Teaches MeI’m sitting in the back row of my children’s high school theater as close to the middle as I can get. It is the third night and final night…May 10, 2023May 10, 2023
The Art of Neuroplasticity: Using Working Affirmations to Rewrite Maladaptive Core BeliefsA powerful thing can happen when a person experiences attachment wounding, especially when it happens repeatedly or in a traumatic way. We…Feb 13, 2023Feb 13, 2023
The Skills of the Adult SelfIn Mary Peiffer’s book, Reviving Ophelia, she identifies 12 skills that adults need to have in order to be successful and productive in…Dec 31, 2022Dec 31, 2022
Attachment Wounds ExplainedThe Finding Peace model always starts out with a yin and yang. On one side, we have peace. On the other side, we have pain. We live in a…Sep 1, 2022Sep 1, 2022
The Parable of the Water BucketsI am standing along the banks of the Colorado River. The morning sun is rising above the horizon turning the speckled clouds across the sky…Jun 28, 2021Jun 28, 2021
How the Six Shadows of Shame Gang Up On Us and What to Do About ThemOne of my favorite places to visit growing up was the science museum and the planetarium. Apart from the opportunity to buy space ice…Jul 14, 2020Jul 14, 2020
Healing in a Hospital Room — It’s Not What You ThinkTen years ago, my rejection wound was reopened. The details are not important. The bottom line is that two men whom I trusted made…Apr 6, 2020Apr 6, 2020
I Learned Something When I Pulled Out the Palm TreesAbout ten years ago, my family moved into a new house. Situated near the front of the house were three young palm trees, each about 12…Apr 24, 2019Apr 24, 2019
Five Grouding Activities You Can Do in Five Minutes or LessNobody got time for that.” is an expression I hear clients tell me often.Apr 20, 2019Apr 20, 2019