A powerful thing can happen when a person experiences attachment wounding, especially when it happens repeatedly or in a traumatic way. We end up drawing conclusions about why these painful things happen and usually the conclusions are incorrect. …

In Mary Peiffer’s book, Reviving Ophelia, she identifies 12 skills that adults need to have in order to be successful and productive in life. I have found these skills are essential in helping us when our Attachment Wounds are hit. You may want to rate yourself on how well you…

The Finding Peace model always starts out with a yin and yang. On one side, we have peace. On the other side, we have pain. We live in a world where there’s a lot of pain; there is a lot of suffering. Suffering can be found in so many places…

I am standing along the banks of the Colorado River. The morning sun is rising above the horizon turning the speckled clouds across the sky a fusion of pinks, oranges, and purples. I am standing in soft sand, the kind that billows up into my face at the slightest movement…

One of my favorite places to visit growing up was the science museum and the planetarium. Apart from the opportunity to buy space ice cream just like the astronauts used to eat and getting a closer look at the planets and stars in the planetarium shows, one of the displays…

Ten years ago, my rejection wound was reopened. The details are not important. The bottom line is that two men whom I trusted made decisions that affected me in a way that ripped open my rejection wound. I felt completely useless, worthless, and depressed, and even suicidal.

About ten years ago, my family moved into a new house. Situated near the front of the house were three young palm trees, each about 12 feet high. My wife and I were not really excited about the palm trees. Our realtor offered to pull them out for free. …

Nobody got time for that.” is an expression I hear clients tell me often. Usually, we are talking about the power of meditation and its ability to help calm our senses and bring us to a place of greater peace and serenity. When they ask, “For how long should I…

Lately, I have been reading more about surrender. It is definitely a concept that is difficult for a lot of people to understand. Surrender often times has a connotation of waving the white flag and giving up one’s power to the enemy. However, in recovery, surrender is looked at differently…