May 10What Pain Still Teaches MeI’m sitting in the back row of my children’s high school theater as close to the middle as I can get. It is the third night and final night of my daughter’s last performance of her high school career, although none of us know that. …Love5 min readLove5 min read
Feb 13The Art of Neuroplasticity: Using Working Affirmations to Rewrite Maladaptive Core BeliefsA powerful thing can happen when a person experiences attachment wounding, especially when it happens repeatedly or in a traumatic way. We end up drawing conclusions about why these painful things happen and usually the conclusions are incorrect. …Positive Affirmations4 min readPositive Affirmations4 min read
Dec 31, 2022The Skills of the Adult SelfIn Mary Peiffer’s book, Reviving Ophelia, she identifies 12 skills that adults need to have in order to be successful and productive in life. I have found these skills are essential in helping us when our Attachment Wounds are hit. You may want to rate yourself on how well you…Skills11 min readSkills11 min read
Sep 1, 2022Attachment Wounds ExplainedThe Finding Peace model always starts out with a yin and yang. On one side, we have peace. On the other side, we have pain. We live in a world where there’s a lot of pain; there is a lot of suffering. Suffering can be found in so many places…Attachment Wounds18 min readAttachment Wounds18 min read
Jun 28, 2021The Parable of the Water BucketsI am standing along the banks of the Colorado River. The morning sun is rising above the horizon turning the speckled clouds across the sky a fusion of pinks, oranges, and purples. I am standing in soft sand, the kind that billows up into my face at the slightest movement…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Jul 14, 2020How the Six Shadows of Shame Gang Up On Us and What to Do About ThemOne of my favorite places to visit growing up was the science museum and the planetarium. Apart from the opportunity to buy space ice cream just like the astronauts used to eat and getting a closer look at the planets and stars in the planetarium shows, one of the displays…Shame5 min readShame5 min read
Apr 6, 2020Healing in a Hospital Room — It’s Not What You ThinkTen years ago, my rejection wound was reopened. The details are not important. The bottom line is that two men whom I trusted made decisions that affected me in a way that ripped open my rejection wound. I felt completely useless, worthless, and depressed, and even suicidal.Attachment Wounds5 min readAttachment Wounds5 min read
Apr 24, 2019I Learned Something When I Pulled Out the Palm TreesAbout ten years ago, my family moved into a new house. Situated near the front of the house were three young palm trees, each about 12 feet high. My wife and I were not really excited about the palm trees. Our realtor offered to pull them out for free. …Short Story4 min readShort Story4 min read
Apr 20, 2019Five Grouding Activities You Can Do in Five Minutes or LessNobody got time for that.” is an expression I hear clients tell me often. Usually, we are talking about the power of meditation and its ability to help calm our senses and bring us to a place of greater peace and serenity. When they ask, “For how long should I…Mindfulness7 min readMindfulness7 min read
Apr 17, 2019God’s InboxLately, I have been reading more about surrender. It is definitely a concept that is difficult for a lot of people to understand. Surrender often times has a connotation of waving the white flag and giving up one’s power to the enemy. However, in recovery, surrender is looked at differently…Life Lessons4 min readLife Lessons4 min read