I am standing along the banks of the Colorado River. The morning sun is rising above the horizon turning the speckled clouds across the sky a fusion of pinks, oranges, and purples. I am standing in soft sand, the kind that billows up into my face at the slightest movement…


One of my favorite places to visit growing up was the science museum and the planetarium. Apart from the opportunity to buy space ice cream just like the astronauts used to eat and getting a closer look at the planets and stars in the planetarium shows, one of the displays…


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Ten years ago, my rejection wound was reopened. The details are not important. The bottom line is that two men whom I trusted made decisions that affected me in a way that ripped open my rejection wound. I felt completely useless, worthless, and depressed, and even suicidal.


About ten years ago, my family moved into a new house. Situated near the front of the house were three young palm trees, each about 12 feet high. My wife and I were not really excited about the palm trees. Our realtor offered to pull them out for free. …


Nobody got time for that.” is an expression I hear clients tell me often.

Usually, we are talking about the power of meditation and its ability to help calm our senses and bring us to a place of greater peace and serenity. When they ask, “For how long should I…


Lately, I have been reading more about surrender. It is definitely a concept that is difficult for a lot of people to understand. Surrender often times has a connotation of waving the white flag and giving up one’s power to the enemy. However, in recovery, surrender is looked at differently…


I am not a mechanic. I know how to change the oil, replace a tire, and add windshield wiper fluid, but that is the extent of my auto mechanic skills. To prove my point, one time, when my radiator was low on fluid, I opened the oil cap of my…


A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to go to a men’s retreat. It is always a rejuvenating time for me to reflect on the kind of man that I want to be. One of the activities available over the weekend was rope belaying. Each of us was instructed…


In my previous post, I wrote about my struggles with being different than many of the boys in my class. In elementary school, most of the boys would run off to play soccer during recess. I had absolutely no desire to do that. So, I hung around with the girls…


Hi, I’m Troy. I’m adopted.

That was how I introduced myself when I was a kid. I was adopted at five days old in a closed adoption. Growing up, I never knew who my biological parents were. My parents told me from as young as I can remember that I…

Troy L. Love, LCSW

Amazon-Best Selling Author of Finding Peace: Healing from Loss, Neglect, Rejection, Abandonment, Betrayal, and Abuse. Learn more at www.troyllove.com.

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